Even though her car doesn’t have brakes (only a gas pedal), the steering wheel is in the passenger seat—your seat—you control the destination.
Still, Life is unfair. She doesn’t give you time to think about the next turn. One wrong turn and you’ll end up somewhere different. Different is scary, unknown, and usually unpleasant at first. To avoid suffering, you have to get use to “different” as fast as you can.
Because Life is full of unknown turns, Life is about ACCEPTING CHANGE.
It’s an evolution, a process where you get to experience good and bad; death (of a family member), victory, loss, power, failure, etc.
To successfully accept change, you must mourn your losses and failures.
When a $30 E string breaks before you play a note on it, you have to mourn over it; feel it in your heart, it hurts, yes, it’s supposed to—because it is unfair.
Life is unfair.
The string went from new to broken in one second, and you couldn’t avoid it. It still hurts because your dollars don’t grow in your backyard. Think about your loss, hate life for a second, understand how unfair it was and grouch; mourn your loss. But accept the change.
Life won’t stay the way you know it or like it; Life will continuously change. Spend a week accepting that you lost that audition, cry, suffer, get it out— it will end. And you’ll be on your feet sooner than you expect. Mourn your rejection letters. Mourn your mistakes, they are just human moves—it’s part of riding the car of Life.
I recently took 3 days to digest some shocking news. It felt like if Life were eating my heart one bite at the time. But after the second day it started to move away, slowly, probably because I couldn’t think about anything else for those two days. I wanted to avoid thinking about it because it’s easier on my chest; but, remember last week’s post? Delay Gratification.
It’s better to mourn your loss for a week, than have it haunt you 30 minutes a day for a year.
Your time is valuable and you should be as healthy as you can so you can put in your hours in the practice room.
It’s about making the best out of the sucky part of life. It’s about suffering less, living smarter and becoming the best musician you can become.
Mourn your failures and keep moving the steering wheel—you’ll end up somewhere. Learn and move along Life, you have no choice.